When You Commit a Microaggression
If you’re trying to do this work, there will be times when you mess up and accidentally hurt someone. Someone sharing that with you is a communication gift. Take these opportunities as areas for growth instead of telling yourself “I made a mistake; I’m a terrible person.” We all make mistakes; we are human beings.
- Acknowledge feelings and experiences of the other person and yourself
- How the other person receives what you say matters!
- Say “Thank you” not “you’re overreacting” or “I didn’t mean it that way”
- Critical step: Apologize & Listen
- “I’m sorry” not “I’m sorry YOU feel that way” - the second puts it back on the other person
- Take ownership of your privileges and prejudice
